Loving a Consciousness Demanding Woman-Thoughts about Couples and Therapy

Stepping outside of yourself

Consciousness what? Scratching your head in preponderance of this striking terminology or perhaps you are yourself a woman considering the appropriateness of such a label for your very self? Has the world sometimes labeled you a tough cookie, or suggested that your exultant expectations are otherworldly? If you are a man who has known her you certainly will be ebullient or panic stricken, perhaps melodic blending of the two, this lady is neither for the faint of heart nor lackadaisical. For you dear reader, please allow me to continue describing this wildly dynamic and soul provoking feminine specimen.

Lovers

To begin, she is seldom satisfied by the superficial illustriously tempting facade, perhaps she appreciates exterior beauty but the consciousness demanding woman craves the deep thrumming of a soul submerging connection from her male counterpart. She’s the kind of woman who doesn’t spend much time watching hours of mind numbing popular television shows either alone or with her lover; she instead wants to share a conversation considering some theory, thought, maybe even a period of history. If you are still reading on, there is a part of you which is intrigued by the notion of giving and receiving more of yourself and other, the richness to access these seldom accessed parts of you, not because she will force you but instead because you are inspired.

Lovers in a rush

The opposite of the consciousness demanding woman is the maiden, the maiden is passive and demure and unaware of her feminine power so inside it remains, resting, placating, dormant. By contrast the consciousness demanding woman knows of her strengths as well as her weakness and in her effort to ever heighten her own vibratory and intellectual capacity she never courts the minimum as she understands that you receive what you give. If you are a lover contented to dance about life in the comforts of mediocrity then you are best to remain where you are. The consciousness demanding woman is hallmarked by passionate intensity and heightened awareness with which she loves you, as well as herself. Most importantly she maintains that love must be exhibited in action, not simply and auditory utterance. In ways both magnificent and meek she acts upon her love. You may notice a congruity in the consciousness demanding woman as she lives and loves in much the same manner, it is in the way which she respects and expects others to be.

Thinking Man, Illuminated

If you want to buy your way into enlightenment or seeking out indulgences then find a fellow capitalist and head to Wall Street because the consciousness demanding woman is beckoned by the possibility of enthrallment with your mental constitution and emotional climate. Her not so little secret is that she strives to intimate the essence of your being and not in a covert manner much like the maiden who may seek to understand you in order to please you, or trick you into seduction. A consciousness demanding woman will be forthright in her desires as she will want to take only that which her partner is inwardly compelled to give. As a fact she places much of her self-esteem and dignity upon her ability to share even difficult truths. The resultant is that she will often tell you things that you don’t want to hear but probably need to know. In the unceasing quest for absolute verity she makes a wonderful friend and so you will often find her among an ever expanding circle of mutually respectful comrades. So without and within so she is equally contentedly alone with a book or a thought. Just as well as her ability to move beyond discomfort to deliver truth she is sumptuous in her sharing of joy and gratitude. The maiden may hold back this lavish and overt praise for fear of overwhelming her lover with the magnitude of her feeling. The consciousness demanding woman will gaze directly into your eyes and crisply annunciate to you all of the things within your essence and the world that seduce her glee, beckon her respect, and drape her in comfort. She remains ceaseless in her journey of self-discovery and recognizes the subtle and grand metamorphosis of the very universe and elemental laws, accepting that convergent truth unites all and that we are each blossoming or dormant in a state of becoming yet she is quite comfortable in those unknowns. If you are in love with a consciousness demanding woman, you just may know but will never forget because the unfolding of the relationship will take you one step closer to you or something magnificent which proffers union to all…

What Are Examples of Emotional Intimacy?

Examples of emotional intimacy include sharing your true feelings, trusting your partner with your fears, and feeling safe to be yourself. It is the closeness that grows when two people open up to each other. It goes deeper than everyday talk.

We often see it in small, quiet moments. Telling your partner about a hard day, listening without judging, and celebrating each other’s wins all build it. It is about feeling truly seen and accepted.

According to the American Psychological Association, feeling understood and emotionally close is strongly linked to relationship satisfaction. We see emotional intimacy as the heart of a strong bond.

Building this kind of closeness takes time, and couples counseling can help partners grow it together. Real connection is something you create side by side.

How Do You Build Emotional Intimacy?

You can build emotional intimacy by opening up, listening with care, and making time for each other. It grows slowly through honest, everyday moments. Small steps matter more than grand gestures.

Start by sharing your thoughts and feelings, even the hard ones. Ask your partner about their inner world, and really listen to the answer. Put away distractions, show appreciation, and be gentle when one of you feels vulnerable.

According to research published in the Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, couples who focus on their emotional bond often report greater closeness and satisfaction. We find that steady effort deepens connection over time.

Learning to connect on a deeper level is a skill, and emotionally focused therapy can help couples build it. Closeness grows each time you choose to open up.

What Blocks Emotional Intimacy?

Emotional intimacy can be blocked by fear, busyness, and past hurts that make opening up feel hard. These barriers are common, and they do not mean a relationship is failing. The good news is that they can be worked through.

Some common blocks include fear of being judged, holding in feelings, or never having a quiet moment to connect. Old wounds from past relationships can make trust harder too. Naming the barrier is the first step to moving past it.

According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, communication difficulties are one of the most common issues couples bring to counseling. We see these blocks as something many couples gently overcome.

When something keeps getting in the way of closeness, the Gottman method gives couples tools to reconnect. Most barriers can soften with care and patience.

What Does Emotional Availability Look Like?

Emotional availability looks like being open, present, and willing to share and receive feelings. An emotionally available person can talk about their inner world and make room for yours. It is a key part of feeling close.

We often see it in everyday actions. Being willing to listen, staying present during hard talks, and showing your true feelings are all signs. It also means being steady and reliable when your partner needs you.

According to the American Psychological Association, being able to recognize and share your feelings supports healthier, closer relationships. We see emotional openness as something you can grow.

If you want to become more open and present, individual therapy offers a supportive space to work on it. Emotional availability is a strength you can build.

Is It Normal to Not Feel Connected to Your Partner?

Yes, it is normal to not feel connected to your partner at times, even in a loving relationship. Closeness naturally ebbs and flows. A quiet stretch does not mean something is broken.

Busy schedules, stress, and routine can all create distance. Often the spark returns with a little care and attention. Gentle steps, like spending quality time and really talking, can help you reconnect.

According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, most couples who attend therapy report improvement in their relationship. We see distance as something many couples move through together.

If the gap feels wide or lasting, couples therapy can help you find your way back to each other. Connection can be rebuilt, one moment at a time.

In loving consideration,

Stephanie McCracken MSPC

Reviving Minds Therapy

Psychotherapist offering Marriage and Couples Therapy

1010 Western Avenue

Pittsburgh Pa 15233 Suite 100

412-215-1986