Pre-marital counseling is a form of couples therapy which helps the couple to assess the strengths of their relationship while finding opportunities for the couple to maintain the joy which has driven their decision to marry. With strong relationship skills we keep love alive and provide the couple with the relationship wellness skill-set to embody the hopeful tenants of the upcoming vows. Also, take a few moments to use our premarital counseling questionnaire which is a great tool for you and your partner to use. Here are some fun and relevant statistics from the Health Research and Statistic Fund to keep in mind as you prepare for your upcoming marriage.
- As many as 93% of Americans site that having a happy relationship is a goal of theirs.
- Couples who participate in some form of premarital counseling had 30% greater success rate for happiness and longevity in their marriages than couples who did not.
- The average length of treatment for premarital counseling is about 8 sessions.
- About 44% of American couples doing premarital counseling before walking down the isles, their goal is to enhance and maintain their relationship wellness.
By working with a marriage counselor who is an expert in assessing relationships, you will be able to identify what parts of you connection are especially strong and also to look at the potential pitfalls in combining the unique styles of personality that each partner brings into the relationship. This provides an opportunity to enhance the relationship and prevent the potential that things could go wrong before they actually do. Remember that according to the National U.S Bureau of Labor Statistics, as many as 43% of marriages end in divorce. There are so many things that we can do before a relationship takes a wrong turn to intervene and keep marriages and families happy, healthy, and intact. Couples who participate in premarriage or premarital counseling typically do not have a problem but are psychologically healthy with a positive outlook on their relationship.
Some goals of PreMarital Counseling Include
- To provide education and information on married life.
- Discuss each partner’s envisioned roles in the marriage.
- To examine the communication styles of each parter in the relationship and to determine the strengths and areas for growth or potential pitfalls of that style.
- To develop a plan for conflict management using healthy relationship wellness skills.
- To have conversations about important relationship matters such as sexual intimacy, finances and division of household labor, as well as parenting as well as what those topics mean to each person in the relationship.
- Identifying the strengths and resources within the relationship, to look at what parts of the communication and intimacy are really thriving and provide information about what helps the couple to bond to together more deeply.
- To provide insight into what could potentially become gridlocked issues in communication or personality. Remember that no matter how perfect our match is with our fiancé, we take on a set of unsolvable problems in every relationship. With perpetual problems, it is important to identify them and provides ways to manage them constructively using healthy relationship skills.
The average couple seeks marriage counseling after many years of hardship and conflict, just like in all forms of medicine, prevention and early detection are the keys to remaining well. For relationships, we know that therapy has much better outcomes when couples decide to act early. The relationship experts at The Counseling and Wellness Center of Pittsburgh are glad to help you enhance your relationship, to create a well-informed, well-prepared, more harmonious and well-balanced marriage that is immunized to the potential risks that could cause it to fail or be challenged in all of the many years of future to come. We are also proud to be a center that specializes in serving all diverse members of our western Pennsylvania community, offering specialized and inclusive care for all including LQBTQIA communities. Premarital counseling does not need to be a part of a religious process and most of our therapists practice counseling methods which are grounded in compassionate human science. For the service of our individuals and clients, we do have one therapist who offers Christian counseling.
Alison Aughinbaugh, Omar Robles, and Hugette Sun, “Marriage and divorce: patterns by gender, race, and educational attainment,” Monthly Labor Review, U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, October 2013, https://doi.org/10.21916/mlr.2013.32.