depression

According to the National Institute of Mental Health, an estimated 21 million adults in the United States had at least one major depressive episode in 2020 so it’s likely someone you know or love has been affected. Knowing what to say to someone with depression isn’t always easy. However, social support can remind your loved one that they are not alone.

Research has shown that strong social support is an important factor in decreasing functional impairment in patients with depression and in increasing the likelihood of recovery. If your friend isn’t ready to talk, continue to offer your support by checking in regularly, either in person, on the phone, or by text.

So, what should you say to someone who has depression? Here are 8 suggestions.

1. “I know you don’t see a light right now, but it’s there.”
2. “I am here for you, tell me how you are feeling.”
3. “I see that you have taken steps every single day to conquer your depression.”
4. “You are resilient and you have people who love and care for you, including me.”
5. “What can I pick you up from the grocery store?”
6. “Would you like to join me on a short walk? If you’re not feeling up for it today, that’s okay.”
7. “You don’t have to figure it all out today. We’re in this together.”
8. “I can look for a counselor for you. Would that help?”

If you or someone you know would like help for depression, please contact us at 412-322-2129 or fill out the form below.

Our therapists are here to offer mental wellness support with specific interventions to treat all major mental health disorders including anxiety, depression, grief and trauma as well as relationship issues or any life stressors that you are dealing with.  We teach you new coping skills for a variety of relational, emotional, and psychological issues so that you can enjoy your life. 

While each counselor has their own specialties and approaches to therapy, there are several key things that most therapists want you to know.

Read on for 10 things your therapist wants you to know.

1. Talking to a friend is not a replacement for therapy—therapy is strategic, focused, and an application of scientific methods to heal.  Friends can offer support and connection but can’t replace therapy.
2. Therapy is a safe place where you can be yourself without feeling judged.  We won’t judge your story.
3. Healing doesn’t happen from attending a weekly appointment.  You heal by applying the skills, solutions and methods that you discuss in therapy during all of the hours in between sessions.
4. It is ok to tell us anything and everything you are experiencing or have experienced: feelings, thoughts, intentions, behaviors etc.  You’d be surprised that what you are sharing is something we have most likely heard many times before and it is not shocking. 
5. We’re not irritated by reviewing the same information over and over.  Change takes time and practice.
6. Setbacks are just learning opportunities — we won’t be disappointed in you.
7. It may get worse before it gets better.  Talking about tough emotions, situations and past traumatic experiences may be painful at first but is necessary in order to process them and change.
8. The opposite of depression isn’t happiness.  Often times folks who experience clinical depression make an assumption that they continue to be depressed or are not getting better even after symptoms decrease because they are “not happy” (with life/career/partner).  The marker they use to determine depression is happiness vs unhappiness.  When people learn that happiness takes work, it can be freeing for them and they have an easier time accepting their progress.
9. Therapy can be challenging.  It is not easy.  But first work on developing a therapeutic relationship with your therapist.  Once you have a solid foundation, you are able to work through so much.  Be patient with the process.
10. We won’t say hello in public unless you do first. 

It is an honor and privilege to be a part of this life journey with each and every client we see.

Interested in Starting Therapy?

If you are ready to start therapy, you can call us a 412-322-2129 or fill out the form below.

The Pittsburgh region can be dark and gloomy during the winter months. Fear not! There are myriad ways to bolster your defenses to fight the winter blues.

1. Stay active. When the sun is shining it is easy to remain active and enjoy the outdoors. But it might take a little more discipline to maintain an active state when it’s cold. Just remember the less active you are, the more your energy becomes depleted. So, get outside, try a winter sport or take a winter hike—you might marvel at how different the terrain is all covered in snow and get the extra mood boost that the outdoors provides.
2. Be very intentional in what you are consuming. During the holiday season and cold weather months we crave more fat and carbs. Those kinds of foods actually deplete our energy and cause shifts in weight and mood. Depression and energy does have a metabolic component so by consuming foods that are easily metabolized and nourishing, our energy and mood can be improved.
3. Use Vitamin D supplementation. Vitamin D has been studied as a major component in seasonal depression as well as a host of medical and mental health issues. Take a high quality supplement to increase your body’s stores of it especially during the winter months.
4. Get as much natural light as possible. Overhead lighting can actually confuse your circadian rhythm and disrupt the sleep/wake cycle. It really is the sun’s energy which increases our Vitamin D and has a major impact on our cellular and neurochemical functions.
5. Get your temperature up. Activities such as taking a hot bath, sitting in a hot tub or sauna and taking a hot yoga class can be very soothing during the cold winter months.

Is it the Winter Blues or SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)?

It can be difficult to distinguish winter blues from Seasonal Affective Disorder. The real difference is in the severity and length of the symptoms. If you experience a shift in mood characterized by the below symptoms, you should reach out to a mental health professional or medical doctor to be screened for depression. Of course feelings of self-harm should always be brought to the attention of a medical or mental health professional.

Seasonal Affective Disorder Symptoms:

• Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
• Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
• Changes in appetite; usually eating more, craving carbohydrates
• Change in sleep; usually sleeping too much
• Loss of energy or increased fatigue despite increased sleep hours
• Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., inability to sit still, pacing, handwringing) or slowed movements or speech (these actions must be severe enough to be observable to others)
• Feeling worthless or guilty
• Feeling grumpy or irritated
• Body aches
• Difficulty thinking, concentrating, or making decisions
• Thoughts of death or suicide

As many as 10% of the population in Western Pennsylvania could meet the criteria for SAD. Treatment includes light therapy which exposes the patient to light spectrums which helps to regulate melatonin and Vitamin D levels. Of course all treatments work best in conjunction with psychotherapy.

Dealing with Seasonal Affective Disorder or Depression?

If you’re interested in treatment for Depression or Seasonal Affective Disorder,  you can reach us at 412-322-2129 or contact us here.

Holidays are steeped in traditions that are centered around the family and there is a hallmark sentiment that everyone is rejoicing in love with their near and dear during this most festive time of the year. The truth looks a bit different though. Family conflict, tension and even estrangement are more common than you may think. One study found more than 40% of participants had experienced family estrangement at some point.

But knowing you are not alone doesn’t make things happier or easier. The holidays are still hard and may bring up feelings of sadness, loneliness, jealousy, anger, shame or worthlessness. 

To help combat these feelings, here are therapist-verified tips to help beat the holiday blues:

1. Validate Your Feelings. If you fight the thoughts and feelings or judge yourself for having them, then you increase your emotional upset. Acknowledge that you feel sad and allow yourself to feel that sadness. This builds resiliency that you can be present with the uncomfortable feeling of sadness. It also increases self-trust that you can name and acknowledge the feelings you are having—this is especially helpful if your feelings were dismissed or not seen as a child. For example, “I’m feeling really sad and lonely that I am not on good terms with my family. This feeling is valid. I don’t have to pretend it’s not there. I can feel this sadness and use my coping skills to get through it.”
2. Pick a Coping Skill or Self Care Tool That is Most Useful for You. There are myriad coping strategies to deal with feelings of sadness, disappointment and loneliness. Pick a tool that best supports you and be sure to practice it throughout the holidays. Tools include journaling, focusing on what is right in your life and practicing gratitude for that, meditation, yoga, running, watching a funny show or movie, noticing your negative thoughts and reframing them. There is no one right tool so just pick one and try it out.
3. Set Boundaries for Topics of Conversation. To maintain your peace of mind during the holidays, set boundaries with your family on what you are and are not comfortable discussing. If your older brother always comments on your weight, simply tell him, “I am not interested in discussing my weight. I’d rather hear about my nephew’s soccer game.” If your grandmother always nags you about being single and childless, share that this isn’t something that you are open to discussing with her but you’d love to share about your lovely foster cat. Setting and keeping your boundaries will help you to feel empowered over your situation instead of feeling like you have no say in the conversations happening around the dinner table.
4. Temporarily Delete Social Media from Your Phone. For many people social media can be triggering. This is especially true during the holidays when your feed is filled with photos of other people connecting with their family around the dinner table or unwrapping presents in matching pajamas. This may make a person who is excluded from such family gatherings melancholy or jealous they aren’t having the same experience. Allow yourself to take a break from this type of content so you’re not adding on to your emotional burden. It can be as easy as deleting the app from your phone and reinstalling after the New Year.
5. Make a Plan for How You’ll Tackle the Day. Schedule a FaceTime check in with a friend. Enjoy a free yoga session on YouTube. Whatever you decide, make a plan ahead of time and stick with it. Literally put each activity in your calendar. This will keep you accountable and prevent you from having nothing to do and slipping into worsening feelings of loneliness or engaging in poor habits.
   
6. Schedule a Therapy Appointment. If you’re currently working with a therapist, be sure to schedule a session during this time. If you’re not in therapy yet, consider reaching out and getting additional professional support during the holidays.
7. Be of Service to Others. You can always be a support to others who are less fortunate than you by reaching out and volunteering. Clean out your coat closet and take your old coats to a local shelter, choose a child’s name off of a local Giving Tree program and go shopping for the gift, foster a homeless cat or dog through a local rescue group. You could even host a holiday dinner for others who are also alone. Be of service to others while being in service to yourself.
   

Only you can decide what is the best direction for you to maintain peace, mental wellness, and happiness during the holidays and the rest of the year and it is your sole job to protect your peace and wellbeing.

http://jpbsnet.com/journals/jpbs/Vol_3_No_2_December_2015/4.pdf